December, 2010

In this issue:

• The Men's Class
• My Summer of Mashed Potatoes
• Mind Over Matter
• Tao Peace Teleclass
  

"One of the harder lessons we learn is to release pride when we do good to others. Instead, we should thank them for the opportunity to grow." (Unknown source)

December Quicky Special

The holiday season can be challenging for many of us. If you would like at quick 15 minute coaching session this month for $15, just send me an email at lori@attorney-coach.com and we'll get it set up!

Special: The Men's Class
What In the World Do Women Want?

This audio was developed from a class and the Journeys From the Heart radio show.

Men are always saying "I have no idea what she wants!" Well, this CD will help men with their women.

I have seen women say something over and over to men and the men don't hear it. There are a lot of reasons for this, but with me as their coach, somehow they really hear the message. It's not important from who they hear it, as long as it is heard.

This audio MP3 is a great gift, not only for the men, but for the women who love them.

OK, I'm going way out on the limb here, but here's the deal, it is the holidays, so guess what? You can order ANY MP3 Audio product on the page for $10, ONLY for December!

As a holiday gift to you, it is only $10! The regular price is $37 but for December this class/audio is only...

$10!!

ORDER YOUR AUDIO CD HERE

Scroll down the page to The Men's Class image, or ANY CD image, and click the order here box. Then, in the box that asks for your secret code, put in Holiday, hit apply and it will recalculate the price down to $10!

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Hi Everyone

As you read this newsletter, please accept my gratitude for you being in my life, and my wishes for a healthy, happy, wonderous holiday season, filled with joy, love, family and wonderful friends. Holiday cheers to you and your loved ones. Many blessings and lots of love to you!

Lori

My Summer of Mashed Potatoes

I was a skinny kid and everyone around me knew I was. I don't remember this being a problem until people commented on it. My best friend was heavy in comparison, and my parents, who both love food with a passion, became heavy. People all around me complained about their weight and eventually, my girlfriends and I started to compare our bodies and we would know who was heavier and who was thinner.

Smaller was decidedly better, and by age 11, I was 5 pound heavier than my 2 best friends. That was a tremendous difference in my mind since I was over the 100 pound mark, and they were in the 90's.

That's when it started... my summer of mashed potatoes.

The voice inside my head started fighting and beating myself up for being heavier. This also coincided with smoking pot and getting the munchies. The munchies won the battle.

Every day that summer, I fixed myself up a saucepan of those potato buds. You know, the dried out potatoes flakes you boil with water, milk and salt and of course, a huge pat of butter. Every single night I would sit down with my bowl of mashed potatoes. Well, sometimes I alternated them with chocolate chip cookies and milk. As you can imagine, the weight piled on.

That summer, my dad told me I had fat arms. I have had fat arms ever since.

I went through puberty, and I must have weighed somewhere between 106 and 109 when I started 7th grade. I felt enormous next to the other girls. I started hating my body and started to fight myself. The more I hated and fought, the more unhappy I became. The more I tried to "win" the battle, the harder I fought. Can you see a pattern?

I am now acutely aware of every ounce I don't like and the weight continues to dominate my thoughts. I think it is called obsession. Interestingly, I didn't develop bulimia or anorexia. I just became a warrior, against myself, against the made up weight demons.

I didn't want to pass it down to my daughter, but how can I not when my passion, my love is food yet a voice inside tells me it is the enemy? How do I make friends with this so called enemy?

So, it is like 38 years of battling and I get it is all made up thoughts, those gremlins, that ego that keeps us engaged in the fight.

Is there something you have been fighting? How many years? What would it take for you to put down the sword?

Please write to me, I want to know.

Learn More About Lori on Health Podcast

I had a really fun interview with Eric Dye of Health Podcast. This is a quick 15 minute interview, so if you have time check it out. I give some great relationship advice!

healthpodcast.podbean.com/2010/11/26/how-to-do-relationships-well

Mind Over Matter

With the advent of facebook, many of us are in touch with our high school friends and people we knew in high school who we weren't necessarily friends with. This is the year my high school graduating class reaches the half-century mark. I turned 50 a few weeks ago and my husband gave me the gift of my friends in Oregon and a trip to the coast.

However, a high school colleague, Karen Eastman, gave me the gift of peace when she gave me a Mark Twain quote: "Age is mind over matter. If you don't mind, it won't matter." And BOOM, I instantly felt better, decided not to mind and so far, it hasn't mattered. In fact, I made a pledge to concentrate on what I can do; not on what I can't do. So for example, we walked the beach and up 3 flights of stairs and I was about to complain about my foot hurting (I pulled something) and instead I said, "I was able to walk up and down the beach and up the stairs." Yeah me! I felt great!"

Tao Class is Still Alive on Monday Nights!

There is space for a few more people to join the Tao teleclass on Monday nights, 5pm PST, 6pm MST, 7pm CST and 8pm EST.

Interestingly, the last few weeks have been all about relinquishing control and the paradox of when you stop pushing so hard, things seem to work out. Hmmmm!

For more information and to sign up: http://www.meetup.com/The-Clarkdale-Tao-Study-Group

Stay tuned... and I'll see you next month!

Many Blessings,
Lori